Today, I thought: "What am I going to blog about?" Then I saw this picture:
and it came to me. Wounds and lies.
I could not agree more with this picture. People hide their true emotions all the time- including myself. Really, I personally believe the most common lie is along the lines of "I'm okay."
How many times have you been on the verge of tears, yet when someone asks you what's wrong, you say "Nothing"
"The Loneliest People are the kindest"- This is often SO true.
In the case of Harry in the picture, he is rejected by his aunt and uncle. He is ridiculed by the people around him at school. But when push comes to shove- when his friends really need to be comforted, or when the fit hits the shan in some other way, he is there. Now, do not get me wrong- many lonely people are VERY rude, and hardened. Yet others decide to reach out, compensating, if you will.
"The Saddest people smile the brightest"- Talk about hidden sorrow, Sherlock Holmes is your man. Let's be honest, as a kid, he was probably beat up- intelligence, snarkyness, dreams, they all build up to ridicule and jealousy at some point. That can be applied to a lot of people. One can be smiling on the outside, but still be burning on the inside. Can I ask something of all you readers? Next time you see someone smile- look at their eyes. If their eyes aren't smiling too, then be concerned. If this becomes a pattern- pull them aside, get them a coffee, or tea, or soda, or something, and talk. If they don't want to talk- too bad. Ask them to. It'll help them. I would know. Just do it.
"The most damaged people are the wisest"- I wrote a poem to this affect, in fact. Wisdom, however beautiful, however wanted, it still comes with a price. Like in the case of the Doctor, if you know someone who is wise, and their wisdom at first sounds dumb- LISTEN TO THEM. They found out the hard way, they would know! And even if you don't agree with them- LISTEN TO THEM ANYWAY! They could be venting. Not only that, but when you go through hard times, take what you had, and use it in the future. It's over used, but it is true- What doesn't kill you will make you stronger. But you are still damaged. There are still scars. Give those wise people credit.
Conclusion: People hide A LOT. There are signs- their words, their eyes; their strained smile; the fact that they have trust issues, or that they're anti-social. Befriend them, if you can. Help them. Because as much as they say, "I'm fine" they're really not. What they mean is, " I can deal with it- I have the ability to handle it. "
And they can. But we all know it's not preferable. Okay, maybe they can deal with it, but is it a good thing if they go it alone?
Going by your username, and the comment, I presume that you've been through a bit of this yourself?
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